Having My Cake and Eating It Too: The Power of Shifting My Perspective


We’ve all heard the phrase, “You can’t have your cake and eat it too.” It’s said as if wanting it all is too much to ask. But why wouldn’t I want to eat my cake? Isn’t that the whole point of having it in the first place?


This morning, it hit me like a ton of bricks. I’ve been standing in my own way. I’ve been desperately trying to raise my vibration, but I’ve still been allowing outside things—bad news, my husband’s attitude, circumstances beyond my control—to dictate my success. But the truth is, they don’t. I do.


I have to keep working on me. I have to keep shifting my perspective so that I am no longer affected by the things happening around me. It’s not about them. It never was. It’s about me. It’s about the energy I choose to stand in. It’s about recognizing that my success, my peace, my growth—they are mine to claim.


The Mind Trick


For so long, we’ve been conditioned to believe that wanting more—more love, more success, more peace, more joy—is selfish or unrealistic. That if we reach too far, we should expect something to be taken in return. But that’s a lie. It’s a mind trick designed to make us feel guilty for wanting it all.


The real problem isn’t in having it all—it’s in believing we don’t deserve to. That belief creates an invisible ceiling, keeping us stuck in a lower vibration. It makes us think we have to choose between success and happiness, between love and independence, between ambition and peace. But life isn’t about choosing between things—it’s about embracing all of it.


Shifting My Perspective


Life is messy. Unpredictable. Beautiful. And death? That’s inevitable. So why am I wasting energy letting things outside of me dictate my happiness? Why am I allowing someone else’s bad mood to determine my energy? The moment I give outside circumstances that power, I lower my own vibration. And I refuse to do that anymore.


Life will always throw things at us. People will have bad days. News will come that we don’t want to hear. Challenges will arise. But none of that determines my vibration—I do. None of that dictates my success—I do.


So today, I choose differently. I choose to stay rooted in my own energy. I choose to keep working on me, to shift my mindset, to keep showing up for myself. Because at the end of the day, it’s not his choice. It’s not their choice.


It’s mine.


Having It All Without Guilt


The truth is, everything I want is already mine. The only thing I have to do is stop resisting it. Stop believing I’m unworthy. Stop shrinking myself to fit within the limitations others have placed on me. Instead, I shift my mindset:

• I can have success and happiness.

• I can have love and independence.

• I can receive abundance without guilt.

• I can embrace the messy, unpredictable beauty of life without letting it shake my foundation.


Having my cake and eating it too isn’t impossible. It just requires me to step into my power, to stop believing in limitations, and to accept that I don’t have to choose between joy and struggle. Life will always be both. My power comes from embracing all of it.


Owning My Power


So, what happens when I stop standing in my own way? When I stop believing I have to choose? When I fully accept that I am the one who determines my success, my happiness, my energy?


Everything shifts. Opportunities open, love deepens, joy expands. Not because I fought for it, but because I allowed it.


So I’m choosing to have my cake. I’m choosing to eat it too. And I’m choosing to own every part of this journey.


Because at the end of the day, it was always mine.

Comments

  1. Fantastic JoeMarch 18, 2025 at 4:23 AM

    Beautifully said! It comes down to controlling only what we can control and we know we can’t control everything, only ourselves.

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